The Drama Triangle also offers the victim or the role of someone who lives in fear of reprisals, avoids confrontation at all levels and is often the most desired choice of bullies. This person will often let a persecutor overpower him and even when a rescuer steps in, he doesn't want to side with them, either, in fear the persecutor will make his life even more miserable.
Let’s say again, our favorite persecutor Gary likes picking on Sue, the team member assigned to document sharing and communication updates—she’s our victim here. Even Joe, the best rescuer you, have can’t get help her!
The “confronting" method works best here. The confronting style is also a win-win for both sides because you, as the confronter, will explore the problem and come to a decision on how best to resolve this conflict, however, in this scenario; you may have to utilize not just the confronting method but also the forcing method.
Here, you need to take the persecutor aside and be forceful on his manner during all projects. He either needs to change or leave. Because Joe, the rescuer, wants to help you can utilize his skills. Assure Sue that Joe is there to aid her in dealing with Gary and that you have also addressed your concerns with Gary.
It’s important here that you allow Joe to aid Sue as a backup and to strengthen her character and ability to deal with persecutors such as Gary. Agree to meet with both Sue and Joe periodically to see how things are going and reinforce your praise on Sue’s progress and Joe’s assistance.